When we’re feeling disconnected and unfulfilled in our relationships, we often believe that we need something more from the other person.
We think that in order for us to be happy, the other person needs to be or do something different. While it may be true that sometimes there are some changes we need to make, oftentimes being happy and getting what we desire has more to do with our own awareness.
The problem is that we don’t understand what intimacy really is, and how to experience it more in our relationships. We think that we have to spend a lot more time together and have long deep conversations to bring out the level of intimacy we truly desire.
We think back to the connection we felt in the beginning and wish it could feel like that again.
In the beginning of a relationship we felt really close to our partners and we loved learning new things about each other.
We spent a lot of time together, walking hand in hand and fully enjoying each other’s company. We felt a deep connection just by looking in their eyes and not saying anything. Everything felt good, easy.
We experience intimacy when our mind is peaceful. Intimacy is simply being with each other with a clear and relaxed mind. It is all about having our focus on the other person and not thinking about anything else. It is about fully enjoying each other.
This means that we are not thinking about work or texting when we are together, but we are truly listening to each other.
It is all about the quality of the time we spend together. When your mind is calm and relaxed, you are able to take in life fully and appreciate your relationship more.
Calming our mind and start to listening to our partners – really listens to what they are saying. Taking a moment for ourselves and letting our minds relax would help us see the relationship and your partner in a whole new light again. You would able to appreciate him and our time together.
Hopefully you’ll immediately experience more love and intimacy. This creates a positive spiral in the relationship.
Of course, there are times when the other person simply isn’t willing to reciprocate our attention, and sometimes you may realize the best decision is to walk away from a relationship. In those times, being fully present will also help and guide us to make the right decisions.
But oftentimes, simply quieting our mind and showing up fully opens the door to a deeper level of connection. It helps us to find, again, the closeness and intimacy we often innocently lose after being in a relationship for a longer time.
When we listen to and appreciate our partners, they can feel the appreciation we have toward the relationship. This will help their mind quiet down, which helps them feel close to us again. The upward spiral makes it possible for us to experience even more love in the relationship.
To bring out the best in each other and to experience more love and intimacy, we need to learn to come back to the present moment again. Even though we cannot change the other person, we can learn to bring out the best in them—and ourselves.
MUA: Meilyana Nana
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